Introduction

So on the 9th of December 2019, I found out that my mother is a narcissist. This probably isn’t groundbreaking news to anyone other than me, but this revelation has affected me in a profound way. One of the reasons why this is so profound is because I am adopted and I have been since …

Narcissistic trait #2 – Blame

In this post I am examining another of my mother's traits Blame. This is one of the cornerstones of my mother’s narcissism and her main method of torture to all those around her. It astounds me that she is able to do this so deftly and leave (almost) everyone around her completely unaware of what …

Narcissistic traits #1 – Shame and guilt

In this post, I am examining the first of my mother's negative traits - Shame and guilt. Now, my mother doesn't exhibit these traits herself (and if she does, they are completely fake) - the sum of her actions and inactions cause me to feel this way, that's why I am including them. A normal …

Narcissistic traits – An introduction

So when I started learning about my mother’s narcissism, I came across an article called Narcissist Parents Are Hurt Machines to Their Children. This article lists a range of common traits that narcissists exhibit in order to maintain control of the family unit. As I read through them, my jaw kept dropping to the floor. …

Who’s who is this effed up zoo

Throughout this blog, I will be making reference to quite a lot of people in my family, as well as friends of the family and my personal friends. I thought it would be useful to give an overview of who everyone is. I may add to this page in the future. All names have been …

The start of my journey

PART 1 - Background to note before reading the story: My husband (Adam), daughter (Millie) and I do not live in the same city as my family. We are approximately one days drive away (or a few hours of flying).Both my husband’s family (the Smiths) and my family (the Joneses) live in the same town …